WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SPANKING THERAPY AND CLINICAL THERAPY?
Spanking therapy and clinical therapy are very different. When it works, therapy is a warm and empathic environment in which a patient can work on areas of challenge or struggle related to both emotional wellness, stop-gaps in life or past trauma toward implementing healthy routines and thought patterns or replacing negative and self-depracating thinking with confidence and self-love.
This should be true of any therapy environment. That said, spanking therapy isn’t right for coping with some kinds of issues. Chemical addicitons, self-harming behaviors, eating disorders, PTSD and serious mental health issues are all areas best handled by a licensed clinician in a non-authoritative, therapeutic setting. The Spanking Therapist is happy to do a phone consultation with anyone looking to discuss challenges, but clients seeking help with the kinds of mental health struggles listed above will be referred to a clinical therapy environment.
WHAT WILL THE RELATIONSHIP BE LIKE? IS IT THE SAME AS WITH A REGULAR THERAPIST?
The relationship with any therapist is complex. A therapist can take many roles, and seem at times closest confidant, parent, boss, best friend, perpetrator, romantic partner etc. Above all, a therapist is a mental health professional trained to receive and respond professionally to these intense feelings and roles that may come up in the therapy relationship. Sharing intimate details of your life may make you have many different kinds of feelings for your therapist, the least of which is strong attachment. A trained professional therapist will be able to receive this feelings, process them openly and explore their impact on the therapy relationship WITHOUT acting on them or crossing professional boundaries. A therapist should never invite you into their personal life, see you socially outside of the therapy office, or make or respond to personal advances.
WHAT ABOUT BOUNDARIES? WHAT IF I FEEL VERY ATTACHED?
See above. You may want to discuss with your therapist your desire for a healthy, loving partner in your life, and a goal of therapy may be overcoming factors that inhibit positive relationships, but a mental health professional will be able to receive your advances or attention of this nature while still maintaining professional boundaries.
While occasionally hugging your therapist might be okay if it is discussed, the Spanking Therapist will never make sexual advances, touch you without your prior consent (even for a hug), touch you in intimate parts of your body for any reason or indicate that sexual behavior will aid the therapy process. Talking about sexual behavior and how you the patient have processed sexual encounters OUTSIDE the therapy office may be a natural part of your particular therapeutic goals, but sexual contact within the therapy office or with your therapist is a red flag.
HOW DOES SPANKING FIT INTO THERAPY?
For some people, applying structure and discipline to life goals can feel comforting and secure. In these instances, a patient may be interested in implementing a sense of structure and heightened level of accountability to their life. Spanking therapy can allow a patient to explore this aspect of their personality in a safe, supportive and sane environment outside of the complications of a romantic or sexual relationship. Spanking therapy does not mean a patient’s life is controlled by their therapist, rather, therapist and patient work together to determine a series of goals, real world objectives to meet them, and a reasonable and sane consequence structure to assist with motivation. Spankig therapy can address life-long negative behaviors and patterns, and in many instances, work to recede self loathing and shaming feelings. Spanking therapy is not about finding excuses to punish, but looking forward to institute healthy practices and routines. Spanking therapy is also not only about punishment, but working in a safe and supportive environment to explore and overcome stumbling blocks to achieving goals. The purpose of spanking therapy is to use spanking as a motivator to improve behavior. When spanking therapy works, incidents of spanking and punishment steadily decrease!
HOW DO I KNOW IF A SPANKING THERAPIST IS RIGHT FOR ME?
The same way you know a mainstream therapist is right for you – you don’t! Therapy is an organic process, and it may take some time to determine what the right supportive environment is for you. When seeking a therapist, many people see several different therapists before settling on one, or realizing what their needs might be in a therapy partnership. When looking for a therapist, including a spanking therapist, it’s important to ask questions, be frank about what kinds of behaviors make you uncomfortable or at ease, and be willing to be open about not feeling totally comfortable. Most therapists will respect your desire for a phone consultation to allow you to introduce some of your issues or discuss why you are thinking of going into therapy. As a patient, you always have the right to terminate the relationship or choose not to return for more sessions, at any time, without financial or personal repercussion. Your therapist is a trained mental health professional, and will not interpret this as personal rejection.
WHAT ABOUT THE ACTUAL SPANKING? DO I HAVE ANY CONTROL OR AM I AT THE MERCY OF THE SPANKING THERAPIST?
Consent is at the very heart of a spanking relationship – without your “buy-in” spanking in any context is abusvie and not healthy. At the first session, your therapist will discuss with you your past experiences with spanking and factors motivating your interest in developing this relationship in a therapeutic context. Your therapist will also discuss with you issues around limits, implements, and safety protocols. You can determine whether you would like to experience a spanking at your first session or wait until further sessions. Even later in the therapy when a spanking punishment is warranted based on pre-determined goals and consequences, the spanking will never occur without your consent, and you will always have the choice to either accept a spanking or excuse yourself from the session. During the spanking, you will not be restrained or otherwise held captive to the proceedings. Therapist and patient will develop a contract/treatment plan around which spankings will occur – they will not happen at the whim of the therapist, or outside the terms of the contract.
WILL I GET SPANKED EVERY WEEK?
No! The purpose of spanking therapy is not to invent reasons to be punished, but to provide support and non-judgemental safe environment to work on your goals and desires. If, initially, you feel that weekly spankings are germaine to your goals it can be negotiated, but generally speaking, if you meet the terms of your contract, the session will be spent doing talk therapy/ counseing around the issues.
HOW MUCH IS IT AND HOW DO YOU HANDLE THE FEES?
The session fee is $100 per session, which lasts 50 minutes.
Housecalls are also available within Brooklyn or Manhattan; these sessions are $200.
The Spanking Therapist requests payment in cash only.
WHAT IF I'M VERY INTERESTED BUT CAN'T AFFORD THE FULL FEE?
In special cases, a sliding scale fee can be negotiated.